You can’t start something new until the old is gone and your week is no different. There are seven days in a week, which is a lot of time for events to take place in our lives….the good, the bad and the ugly. I often find myself on a Sunday night getting frustrated over the simplest things as I look toward my next seven days of events. I think of all of the people that have ticked me off, all of the things that did not go my way and all of the bad decisions (like this whole box of thin mints I just finished) I wish I could take back. I always find myself wishing I could resolve these issues and feelings before bed so I won’t have racing thoughts.
I’ve been told more than once a journal is the key. So time and time again I would write down my thoughts which eventually turned into a to do list or a budget or a grocery list which left me with all of those racing thoughts about actual events in my life. Looking forward to a vacation can cause the same types of physical and emotional response as someone breaking up with you or your child acting out. It’s something you can’t get a handle on and you bottle up the emotions which spill out in the form of stress and anxiety.
After years of wondering how on earth can writing crap down help me process it, I finally found the answer. I write to my day. Yep you heard me, I write to my day and all of the people and events involved in it.
So for instance…
Dear February 25, 2018,
You were amazing to me. I woke up to an empty house because everyone was out. You treated me like a queen for the first five hours but then you began to turn on me. I went to pick up the kids and there was a minor fender bender that backed traffic up for one whole hour, and to make matters worse I was two miles from my destination. To you two people involved in the fender bender, I’m really happy you were ok but I am pretty sure you were texting and driving which caused this so I am super annoyed with you for wasting my time I hope your damage was worth that text! Calloway, why did you dig my lavender plant up? What possesses you to go for things you know will get you in trouble? You’re and awesome dog but I’ m really sick of you digging all of my beautiful plants up. Kingy and Mila you two are the most perfect creations I have ever come to know and I am so blessed that your nana was willing to have a slumber party so daddy and I could have some time together. Ahhh sweet night time I love you so. I can’t wait until shower and I meet and then bed. Its been a really awesome day with a few hiccups but my life is amazing and I wouldn’t change it for the world. Unless Feb 26 wants to bring the lottery to my house and a driver, chef and full time housekeeper I wouldn’t be angry at all. Oh and I would really like a shoe budget increase with a side of vacation.
Good night February 25, 2018 I look forward to seeing your sister tomorrow.
This is a great way to process anything. Write a letter to your past, present or future self. Write one to a sibling or a family member. Write a letter to that person that hurt you or that accident that left you scarred. Write to your past job or to the job you want to have. When you are talking to a person or a thing you find a way to process your emotions. You are doing something active toward your emotions and you can go back years from now or even hours and read how you feel. Reading and writing are two different actions and each action processes information differently. I chose this topic because I know a lot of us are dealing with feelings we don’t know how to get rid of, but I’ve learned theres no getting rid of there’s just working through. Thats life so lets deal with the good, the bad and the ugly so we can learn to enjoy more of the good and focus less on the bad or the ugly!
Break out It’s a Wonderful Life and remember how simple and wonderful life can be if we work on it!
Happiness is yours in Lisa’s Lane!